2022.01.25 14:09 sergio_santos_one Don’t look for quick fixes. Instead, crave to learn tools that you can use and reuse your whole life to solve any problem you might encounter. Become bullet-proof.
Don’t look for quick fixes. Instead, crave to learn tools that you can use and reuse your whole life to solve any problem you might encounter. Become bullet-proof.
Sometimes when we struggle, there’s the desire to be fixed by something, by someone, maybe a therapist, maybe a relationship, or even a higher power. We want our struggle to disappear together with our pain, so it is only normal to wish for such a thing. Even if this is not a realistic possibility and we know deep down that it is also not the best we can ask for. In these situations, rather than wishing to be fixed, we should search for the best guidelines and the most useful tools. Something that we can rely always rely on independently of our inner state or the situation we are in. Something that gives us power, rather than making us powerless and dependent on others. This means that when we seek help, we do it from a very different place and with a much healthier perspective.
We should look for guidance, for a way to proceed, we should aim to find our own path. Simultaneously, we should crave to learn the tools we need to follow it. In this way, we are able to put into place the right habits, mindsets, healing practices, and action plans. If we are blessed with some breakthroughs along the way, we embrace them but we don’t rely only on those.
Keep in mind that most improvements occur in small cumulative steps that compound over time to lead to the desired results in the medium to long term. That’s how learning works, that’s how growing works: it takes time. We need enough time to learn, practice, and implement. More importantly, we need enough time for results to accumulate and have a far greater impact on our life than they would otherwise.
It is very important to discover all the pleasant things in life, such as what we really want and how to enjoy life to the fullest, but it is equally important to know how to proceed in hard times. We must know how to deal with anxiety on our own, how to face fears, how to keep pushing forwards during difficult times. We need to become bullet-proof. Therefore, we must focus on learning how to overcome problems, as well as on cultivating the qualities that might be lacking.
Breakthroughs are fascinating moments in the process of transformation. Most of us have experienced eureka moments when a big change or realisation occurred and became permanent in our life from that moment on. We love these moments, they are amazing, but sometimes create the false idea that, if change doesn’t occur in that manner, it won’t happen at all. Of course, that is an erroneous and dangerous belief.
Furthermore, we can be tempted to chase such moments and become demotivated if they do not occur. In the same way, if we look at other people and see big changes happening, we might incorrectly assume that, if we don’t change as fast as they do, we are unable to change. This is an equally dangerous line of thinking that can lead us to get forever stuck.
Breakthroughs can be intoxicating and they are truly beautiful moments, so don’t take me wrong when I say that for me it is more meaningful to learn tools to overcome challenging moments in life and to develop them over time than to have sporadic big chances.
The reason why I prefer to develop tools and processes I can consistently rely on is that they allow me to truly become independent and to find more about who I really am as a person. I want to be able to change according to my own will, I want to experience true freedom and I want others to experience the same. In this way, we start seeing the principles behind the right practices and that is a bigger gift than a breakthrough. This means that our understanding expands and we get true power and control of our life and well-being.
Let me give you an example to illustrate my point of view when it comes to the two processes of transformation: the fast one, through breakthroughs, and the slow one, through small cumulative steps taken daily. Let’s say someone is experiencing high levels of anxiety (like I used until a few years ago) and is not capable of dealing with it. The anxiety is overwhelming and might even be a permanent state experienced from the moment of waking up until the moment of going to sleep. On top of that, there might be especially triggering situations, like public speaking or a particular relationship, that cause extra stress, which can lead to a state close to a full-on panic attack.
Now there are 2 options to consider. The first one is the fast route where we can follow a guided exercise that lowers the state of anxiety immediately. The level of anxiety might lower so much that we might experience a peaceful state like never before. In such moments, there is a huge relief that often comes with the feeling of “I am finally breathing freely”. Moments like this are very inspiring, they fuel hope and leave a strong mark in the mind: “this state of calmness and bliss is possible for me too”. This is all great except for a tiny problem. As soon as we leave the safe environment where we had that experience, there is a tendency to progressively shift away from that peaceful state and sooner or later we will find ourselves close to the initial state of anxiety, not knowing exactly what to do.
The second option is to learn how to progressively overcome anxiety in a step-by-step process that can be practiced at home, as well as in real-life scenarios, maybe even while being triggered. This option is not as sexy, I admit. There is no immediate result or memorable initial experience. In fact, at the surface, it seems that we only have a set of instructions to follow. Although the initial sense of relief might not be there, there is something much more valuable: knowing what to do when anxiety strikes, knowing how to practice and develop your own ability to deal with anxiety, and how to eventually overcome it. In the beginning, you might not consciously know it but now there’s a new possibility, there’s a way to gain control and have power over a situation that before was out of control.
Now there are a couple of questions. Which of these approaches is the best? Which one should we follow? My perspective is: both! I prefer to take advantage of all the tools and possibilities that are available at any specific moment. In practical terms, it means that I believe that any professional help from a therapist, coach, mentor, or teacher should lead to breakthrough-like moments but it should not stop there. There should be practices and exercises to be done daily in the comfort of anyone’s home. Furthermore, these exercises should be useful in real-life scenarios, facing the challenging triggers that happen in normal life with all its unpredictabilities and discomforts.
I strongly believe that the most effective tools are the ones that can be used in 3 different environments: during a session with a professional; in the comfort of our own home; and in real-life scenarios. There are exceptions, of course, but one should always strive to extend the use of a certain tool as much as possible, as long as it is effective. That, not only allows us to understand the core principles of its effectiveness but also allows us to progress much faster.
I hope this post can help you in your journey. Keep creating powerful breakthroughs and implementing the most effective step-by-step practices.
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2022.01.25 14:09 DarkSodaSith Returning player asking for advice
I've been away for awhile and decided to come back. I'm not a big spender at all. Not looking to be pvp competitive.
I was building a brotherhood team before I left. I'm gonna finish that and get Magneto.
Here's what I'm using for campaign right now
Hero - Capt Marvel (she was a login reward) Thor Gamora Wolverine Deadpool
Villain- Mister Sinister Mystique Toad Blob Juggernaut
Nexus - Mister Sinister Mystique Wolverine Toad Blob
Cosmic - Thing Gamora Capt Marvel Minerva Thor
Mystic the only viable ones I have are Thor and Juggernaut
1) I only have Minerva at 2 stars but she was awesome in raids. Is she still viable?
2) is Mister Sinister still viable?
3) Looking at my roster, any general advice about who to keep, invest in, move around or drop?
4) What is the best Magneto team?
5) After I get my Magneto up and running what is a good team to focus on? Are any of the permanent legendary characters still viable?
This is a lot. And anyone who reads and replies will be greatly appreciated. Thanks
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If the Westbrook move were fundamentally flawed, who is to blame?source
Rob Pelinka is the team's vice president of basketball operations and general manager. The decision ultimately falls on his resume.
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